Emotional Intelligence: The Secret Ingregient for Success
What sets today’s leaders apart from the crowd? Making it in the workplace is no longer just about how smart you are. Emotional intelligence is now one of the most important factors that separates leaders from the pack.
Emotional intelligence (or EQ) is defined by leading researchers as the ability to:
“Recognize, understand and manage our own emotions and recognize, understand and influence the emotions of others.”
What does this mean? It means knowing that emotions can drive our behavior and impact people (positively and negatively), and learning how to manage those emotions — both our own and others — especially when we are under pressure.
What Emotionally Intelligent Leaders Do Differently
Emotionally intelligent leaders are different. Take a look at the five things emotionally intelligent leaders do differently, and start improving your own emotional intelligence today.
This sounds obvious, but many people lack self-awareness. Being self-aware means understanding your behavior on three levels. 1.) What you’re doing, 2.) How you feel about it, and 3.) Determining what you don’t know about yourself.
Getting in touch with yourself may require removing distractions and dedicating time to think about your emotions.
They channel their emotions well
Emotions are a natural part of life. It’s normal to experience a range of emotions in any given day as we move between work, home, and other commitments.
Rather than try to ‘control’ emotions, emotionally intelligent people focus on understanding their own emotions and the emotions of those around them.
They’ve learned to motivate themselves
Many people try to look for inspiration first before they take any action.
Emotionally intelligent leaders turn this notion on its head. They know that instead of needing to be motivated, they only need to get moving. They do something that’s even remotely related to what they want to accomplish.
This simple action creates more momentum, propelling them further. They get to work and are inspired by the progress instead of waiting for inspiration to strike.
They recognize emotions in others
Getting a grip on your own emotions is only half the battle. Emotionally intelligent leaders also recognize and respect the emotions of others.
Emotionally intelligent leaders connect and empathize with others. Expressing empathy for someone doesn’t mean you completely understand what they’re feeling. It means you can accept their emotions even if you don’t understand them.
They infuse their emotions with values
Emotional intelligence is nothing if you haven’t established your values.
Conmen are very emotionally intelligent. They understand emotions in themselves and others. But they use that information to manipulate people. And things get ugly when you value little outside of yourself.
To truly be successful, you have to be clear about what you value. That’s where your emotional energy will be directed.
And knowing what you truly value—not just what you say you value—is probably the most emotionally intelligent skill you can develop.
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